OK, nobody should want MY riding tips, but I've found that it's like the song: Hold on loosely, but don't let go.
As much as I know it's not the "correct" thing to say, I usually ride better after a beer or to, or after I've been riding for an hour or so, because I am less stiff and I am more inclined to just go with the bike...sit less uprright, just looser and ready to trust the bike.
Another example: when I am riding in gusty crosswinds, if I just go ahead and let them hit and when the bike leans a bit or moves aside a bit, let it happen and not fight it. If you fight it, you end up stiff and tired very quickly.